Show some love to your Love

 <3 Top 10 to win on Valentine’s Day <3

I composed a list of things that I feel would be cute to do on Valentine’s Day. Fellas I hope you are listening.

1.       Home-made valentine’s card. For me I feel this is so thoughtful and creative. It shows you put effort into it and it’s your words. Besides anyone can buy a card with some heart-felt saying on it BUT your card is a ONE of a kind trust this makes a lady feel EXTRA special knowing that her girlfriend won’t have the same exact card setting on her dresser.

2.       Cancel the dinner reservations and have a candle light dinner at home. This is a nice touch because I feel reservations on Valentine’s Day are a huge hassle and less intimate. How many times have little arguments started due to missed reservations, long waiting times or your significant other complaining about the choice made. It’s often pretty loud as well, why don’t you try the candle lit environment, make a romantic mix cd and the best part the focus is where it needs to be on YOU and YOUR date. If you can’t cook fellas… you could order out and pretend that you made it lol.

3.       If you are going to go the dinner reservation route, try purchasing her a beautiful dress in (HER SIZE), wrap it up in a nice package, arrive early to pick her up and request that she wears what you got her on your outing. If you want extra brownie points matching heels wouldn’t hurt at all. (The key to this success is to know your significant other’s style and size.)

4.       Flowers (of course cliché) But it’s how you utilize the flowers there are so many uses for example: bouquet of flowers, rose pedals spread throughout the house on the ground, bed, table counter, in or around the hot tub, around the pool with candles… Flowers EVERY where you get the drift lol! * A little hint to pull this off and NOT hurt your pockets: artificial rose pedal (silk rose petal) they work wonders I found some pink and red ones in Wal-Mart for less than five bucks per package! They also look VERY REAL =0)

5.       Have an exciting scavenger hunt with clues and places that are special to the both of you like the first place you met or had your first date. You could even have it within your home and watch as your significant other follows the clues and discovers the treasures you left for them!

6.       Go for a walk on the beach, at the park or any place with beautiful scenery

7.       Wine gotta toast to that lol! If you don’t drink sparkling wine anyone?

8.       Fellas if you were gifted with the gift of singing serenade your love with that voice of yours. If you can’t sing… in the wise words of Rupaul “lip sync for your LIFE”. Don’t be afraid to go all out and make up a routine if you like this would definitely make your lady laugh ( if she has a sense of humor)

9.       Chocolate, assorted candy and MORE CHOCOLATE which is usually accompanied with stuffed animals and flowers.

10.   Attention, attention, ATTENTION Ladies!

Although Valentine’s Day seems like it was basically invented to revolve around us, and our significant others are to shower us with flowers, gifts, romantic get-a-ways, presents, presents and more presents. It wouldn’t hurt to do something for your guy. I shocked one of my past boyfriends by doing just that, after I got all my gifts and the romantic dinner I showed him how much I appreciated him. I got him his favorite artist Cd he was trying to find and had no luck finding and had a gift bag full of goodies of his favorite things, and sprinkled the silk rose petals (this is how I knew about the pedals lol!) all over his room along with candles. I blind-folded him and led him into his room with the gift bag sitting on the center of the bed. He was beyond shocked! For one he didn’t expect to get anything from me and I was the first girlfriend he had that actually got him something for Valentine’s Day. So make your men feel just as special and show them that you appreciate them. Be creative, show them that you pay ATTENTION to what they like and go beyond purchasing the cutest thing you can find at victoria secrets lol!

Hope this was helpful and that everyone has a Happy Valentine's Day =)

I'm Riding Solo

It’s a new year and I figured why not try something NEW!  So I got all dolled up and I mean the whole works make-up, lip gloss and a trendy comfortable outfit (p.s. which is the norm the new thing is coming up lol).

I looked great and was feeling so fantabulous I even gave myself a compliment lol!

  

 I was preparing myself for the date of my LIFE, and I couldn’t keep that special someone waiting. I jumped into my car and drove myself to the cinema and since I make it a habit to leave in a timely manner I was early. Who could complain about that? My punctuality provided me with the opportunity to touch up my lip gloss, and have a quick jam session in my car to calm my nerves.

I opened my car door and the breeze was refreshing as it hit my face and I inhaled and exhaled slowly and said to myself “you can do this, snap out of it and stop being nervous”.

I walked up to the box office and said to the attendant “a ticket for one please”

 I know some of you are probably thinking how could this be the date of my life?  Or why did I pay for my own ticket? Those are great questions and my response to both is very simple... I took myself on a SOLO DATE.  I treated the one and only… me, myself and I. That’s right; I also splurged on some rather tasty Swedish fish and ordered a large root beer.

 Sheer bliss to a woman’s tummy and mines was smiling in satisfaction. There I was in the cinema about to do something that I’ve NEVER done before…I don’t know why I didn’t do this sooner, I guess I was just one of those people that always seemed to have a date or go with a group of friends and if anyone were to reschedule I would just NOT go. To be honest, I just felt a bit weird about going alone.

 I walked through the doubled doors and selected my desired seat which is usually on the top level of a stadium seated theatre, positioned right in the middle of screen and not too high or low…it was just right. That very moment was liberating to me, I was in the theatre, about to watch this comedy and I looked to my left and my right…no one was seating next to me. Reality sunk in … I was really alone.

It’s funny how I didn’t seem to mind and the Swedish fish and root beer seemed to taste that much sweeter.

Challenge yourself if this is something you haven’t tried and do it! If this is not new for you then I encourage you to keep doing it. It’s nothing wrong with getting dolled up, picking the place of your choice and treating YOURSELF! Why not? It’s the month of love so why not love yourself right?

Solo dates are something I may do more frequently, this date left me feeling more confident, independent and the kicker is I had a blast… as I singed in my Celine Dion voice “All by myself”

I hope everyone has a blessed day and remember to love yourself...then you will be capable of loving others =)

I’ll take working in the media or fashion industry for 2000 Please.

I’ve always envisioned myself as someone that would work in the media/fashion industry in front of a camera having the time of life while connecting with viewers all of the world. Is that too much to ask to be one of the individuals that LOVE their job?

Jobs that catch my attention are shows like TRL, Anthony Bourdain: No Reservations, The Dish, Entertainment Tonight and Project Runway to name a few.

Looking at shows of this nature makes me say to myself “I can definitely do that!”  But I’m not exactly sure how to get there. I think that is the one thing that gets many of us in a rut, we don’t know what the next step to pursuing our dreams is or who exactly to contact. In some cases that whole it’s not what you know it’s who you know deal would come in pretty handy.  Since I don’t have that at the moment I have to rely on my job searches to lead me to some type of outlet to meet someone that could point me in the right direction.

The problem is sometimes they are not always pointing you in the right direction and confusion inevitable.  Then I’m right back to the drawing board… sigh.

A career in media/fashion would be ideal for me because I have experience being on-air talent; I’m animated, articulate, creative, confident, care-free, a team player, stylish and professional.  I’m sure I can impress many people IF I were just able to get my foot in the door…or even a pinky toe. 

 Grabbing an opportunity like this shouldn’t be hard right? I mean even Barbie has the occupation I desire. But then again Barbie has EVERYTHING ...right?

Here are some images of jobs I desire to do ONE DAY.

If anyone knows of contacts that could assist me in my search of landing my dream job by all means forward that information to my email: patriciaawosiyan@hotmail.com

Have a blessed day!

Black. Beautiful. Bold.

It’s February also known as Black History month! For many it’s a time to reflect on the struggle that many endured to get African Americans where we are today. But, what puzzles me is why many choose to only focus on February to be grateful for the progress made. I don’t need a month to define what being black is, or in other words to say that I am proud to be black. Black history month is every month for me. I’m blessed to be an educated young black woman; an education was something that I was able to obtain freely due to the struggles of those before me.

 I was raised by my parents to not see color but to view the person for who they are.

  When I attended Tusculum College in Greeneville TN I experienced what many would call culture shock. For the first time in my life, it was brought to my attention that I was BLACK…wait a minute really? I was told by older residents that my KIND didn’t belong there, was called the “N” with a “gger” not a “gga” either way I choose not to respond to either one. But, to make matters worse in 2003 a KKK rally was held right in the same exact area where I was attending school. I was shocked, scared, disgusted, upset and so naïve to think we had surpassed this point … but had we really? I laugh to myself now because at that point I didn’t  even think the KKK existed anymore.
 That moment brought tears to my eyes because there I stood a young black woman in college trying to make a difference, trying to prove that all the pain, the struggles my ancestors and civil rights leaders had gone through was not in vain.

I was confused and didn’t know what to do, some of the football players wanted to go to the rally and protest but thankfully the coaches held a mandatory practice to try and distract many minds off this awful situation. Other coaches also took the same approach and since I was an athlete as well we all were at practice. For my teammates and I the rally was all we could talk about, we couldn’t believe this was happening right next door. Who knows what would’ve happened if those students actually showed up to the rally…all I could say is that it would've definitely made the news but for all the wrong reasons. Not only was I in a state that was hours away from my parents, with this incident I felt like a target in a surrounding where some individuals made it clear that I was different and because of that they hated me.

Hate is such a harsh word and although my friends and I have been called the “N’ word before while residing in Greeneville TN I did not instill hatred in my heart. Why? Because there is no need to respond to anyone that calls me out of my name. That word does not have power over me nor will it hinder my progress. Instead I pray for GOD to change those individuals’ hearts, open their eyes and minds to change

Or in the wise words of Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. when he stated “I have a dream that my four children will one day live in a nation where they will not be judged by the color of their skin but by the content of their character.”  Isn’t that what ALL parents’ desire for their children?

I was born and raised in Florida which is viewed as a huge melting pot of beautiful diversity. So, imagine this… me little miss sunshine state attending college in TN and experiencing the piercing stares when my best friend whom is also African American and another teammate whom was Caucasian were walking and chatting it up in the local Wal-Mart. WOW…I quickly noticed that to some of the older people in this state whom were probably raised in the time the civil rights movement and were taught by their parent to hate blacks would frowned upon this unity.

To them segregation was normal and signs that read “for whites only”

didn’t faze them then and that we were together laughing and enjoying one another’s company… was no bueno to them.  I had several incidents that made me fearful, upset and discouraged but it also pushed me to stay focused.  I was there for a reason, to get my college degree and that those incidents were outweighed by more positive times. I was able to see that everyone in Tennessee was not prejudice and my college had a great mixture of students from all over the world. We represent the future, we hold hope close to our bosoms, and we’re living proof that black and white can work together, like one another and in some cases even LOVE one another.

Prejudice is still very alive today but progress is something that takes time and year by year I believe things will continue to get better.

Because change has come I am able to say that I lived to witness the day the United States set aside color and elected Barack Obama become the first African American president.

Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. had a Dream and thanks to him and many others that fought for equality I have the opportunity to live it.

Will I allow my dreams to be deferred? No…because tomorrow is not promised to me so I must act NOW! This young woman is BLACK, BOLD, BEAUTIFUL and not afraid to dream with her eyes wide open. Besides what would dreams be if we all dreamed in black in white? …why not be adventurous and dare to dream in color... a PLETHORA of colors.